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getting back to the real you
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19 PATIENT PROFILES
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It’s almost impossible to count all the things we’ve learned from our mothers—
how to treat other people, how to navigate change, how to look after ourselves.
But more importantly, we learn that a mother’s love is unconditional, instinctual
and all-consuming. In celebration of Mother’s Day, our lineup inside Modern
Beauty includes some very mom-oriented business, including the final word from a
very special contributor this issue—my mom, Judith Born (page 30).
Photography: Billie Chiasson; Grooming: Erin Winn
As spring is a time of revitalization, our med spa experts take a look at some motherly
advice you may have received with regards to skincare, highlighting the tried-and-true
tips and paring down the beauty myths we can set aside (page 08).
Our Patient Profile is expanded a little this time, delivering a cool cross-section of
people who are redefining what it means to be a mom (page 10). We also tackle the
issue of infertility with a few first-hand accounts on the difficulties and distress, both
physical and emotional (page 19).
And my Doctor’s Note (page 26) offers an exploration into the collective trauma we’ve
been suffering for the past year, offering some ways to heal and get back to normal.
The power of ritual and a return to kindness are just two of the ways you can regain
and/or maintain your sanity.
Remember, if you ever need a confidence boost, we’re here to help at the TMB Clinic.
We hope you enjoy this spring issue.
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Billie is a photographer specializing in
all things skin, body and feminine in the
commercial, editorial and creative market in
Toronto. She is represented by Lisa Bonnici.
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Favorite part of the job:
Creating from the imagination and turning
something intangible into a tangible part
of reality. All the while showcasing the true
beauty of the physical, emotion and soul.
Honouring my ancestors who had their
choices/voice stolen from them.
How will you mark the arrival of spring?
Watching the earth flourish and come back
The most important thing you learned from
Be yourself, no boundaries, do what you
Erin is a Toronto-based makeup artist.
Junos docuseries Rising, featuring singersongwriter
and actress Carys
Favourite part of the job:
Collaborating with other creatives and
meeting so many incredible people. I feel so
grateful to have a job that I truly love and
still feel inspired by after 20 years in the
How will you mark the arrival of spring?
Hopefully by soaking up some sun with a
bottle of Paleokerisio.
The most important thing you learned from
Open mindedness. My mother was always
willing to listen to someones opinion and
thoughts, even if they differed from her
own. She did so with a curious mind and
WE RECEIVED FROM
WHAT STILL WORKS,
WHAT NEVER DID.
She was our first beauty
school and taught us
everything she knew
about how to look after
ourselves, including our skin. We’re
talking of course about Mom, your
original beauty guru. Did you listen
Mom knew a thing or two about
self-care—most of it to treasure, but
some of it to trash. For instance, all
the cucumbers in the world aren’t
going to de-puff your eyes, but
castor oil does indeed do doubleduty
as a moisturizer and makeup
Here’s a rundown of skincare tips
our Mothers gave us: the good, the
bad, and the just plain crazy.
Hydration is the key to greatlooking
skin. Moisturizers reduce
the chances of skin issues, helping
to maintain its balance. Moisturizing
helps fight fine lines and keeps skin
looking younger. We like Environ
Youth Essentia Defense Creme, which
is enriched with antioxidants to fight free
radical damage. Best Advice: Don’t forget to cream
THE SUN IS YOUR ENEMY.
UV radiation brings on the wrinkles and a loss of
elasticity. As well, sun damage is cumulative: You
may be a sun goddess now, but the damage will
show up later and you will look older than you
need to, particularly your hands and face. Wearing
sunscreen helps stave off signs of aging.
Don’t forget to apply sunscreen to your décolleté.
Best Advice: Mineral sunscreens are better
for the environment and for your skin.
TO LET GO
MASSAGE UPWARDS, NEVER
In reality, blending up “against
gravity” will not make a difference
to your skin or create
a younger, firmer-looking you.
Just don’t pull on your skin –
massage it gently, especially the
This is nonsense, an advertising ploy, a word marketers
use because there is no regulation saying they can’t.
WASH YOUR FACE IN ICE.
Never do this. Ice actually promotes
spider veins and puffiness, disrupting
blood flow and causing your skin to
lose its elasticity. At the opposite end of
the scale, washing your face in hot water
is also a no-no.
ALWAYS CLEANSE BEFORE BED.
Cleansers not only take makeup off, they also
rid skin of the pollution, impurities and dirt
it has been exposed to during the day. Best
Advice: Make cleansing part of your morning
routine, too – cleanse, serum, sunscreen.
YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT.
It’s true. What’s on the inside makes a big
difference to what’s on the outside. Diet is a big part of
maintaining overall health, which in turn is reflected in that
healthy glow. Drink plenty of water and make sure you’re
eating properly, covering all the vitamin and mineral bases.
Best Advice: No smoking, either.
GET YOUR BEAUTY REST.
Mom probably says that these are the hours of sleep you get
in before midnight. She is mostly right.
Getting enough sleep in general helps your
body recover from the day, including helping
skin rejuvenate. Best Advice: Shoot for
a minimum of seven hours per night.
Many beauty experts will tell you that your age determines the
skincare products you should be using. Actually, this is only
partially true. When you’re young, regimen initiation products
get you in the habit of taking care of your skin. Preventive care
takes over right after that, followed by products that turn back
the clock” flooding your beauty cabinet later on in life.
YOUR FACE GETS TOO USED TO
CREAMS AFTER A WHILE.
If Mom suggests that you change up your
skincare routine every once in a while, because
using one cream too much will cause it to lose its effect,
she is mistaken. And if she says, “The tingle tells you its
working,” you can say that the tingle is telling you your
skin is irritated and could soon be inflamed!
Sadly, no. Or at least maybe not: The occurrence of
acne is as inconsistent as it is annoying – it could be
puberty, hormones, menopause, anything. Putting
toothpaste on your spots does nothing (except
make your pimples minty fresh), and the sun won’t
dry acne out either – it just makes skin oilier,
causing pores to clog. A better approach? Wash
your face once or twice daily using a glycolic
or salicylic acid cleanser. We like SkinMedica
AHA/ BHA Exfoliating Cleanser, which gently
but thoroughly cleanses and clarifies the skin.
The real truth is, your skin type is a more important consideration
than your age when shopping for beauty products.
Simply consider if your skin is: Normal, Dry
Oily, Combination (oily and dry), or Sensitive. This is
largely determined by genetics and not by age. Once you
know your skin type, you’re set for life. //
Step up to the counter at the TMB Clinic and ask our staff
what products we have that are right for your skin type.
IN THE PROCESS OF GETTING BACK TO THE REAL YOU, THESE ADVANCED
TECHNIQUES MAY BE THE PROBLEM-SOLVERS YOU’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR.
Whether a small change or a complete make-better is in order, there’s
no time like the present to refine your unique self and regain body
confidence. To improve post-pregnancy volume loss, arrest the
ravages of time and gravity or simply do something for yourself for a change,
these safe procedures will bring back that natural look. >>
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Solution: Micro Fat Grafting involves
transfering fat from the tummy, thighs or
buttocks to the areas of the breasts that
Benefits: Breasts are more voluptuous, acquiring
a natural fullness and softness, with
any hollowness filled out.
Solution: Nipple Correction surgery works to
fix issues surrounding enlarged, asymmetrical,
protruding or inverted nipples.
Benefits: Improve the overall look of your
breasts, alleviating insecurity over the
appearance of nipples.
ALTERING THE SIZE, SHAPE AND
PROPORTION OF YOUR BREASTS
CAN BE DONE WITH AN INDIVIDUAL
PROCEDURE OR INVOLVE A
COMBINATION OF TECHNIQUES TO
DELIVER THE DESIRED RESULTS.
Solution: Bilateral Breast Augmentation
(BBA) is the enhancement of the breasts
using a surgical implant, either siliconeor
Benefits: The most popoular cosmetic
surgery in North America, this corrects
a loss of breast shape or volume over
time—and a real confidence-booster.
Solution: Mastopexy or breast lift is the surgical
revision and reshaping of the breasts to
lend a more youthful, lifted look.
Benefits: Problems due to aging, pregnancy,
breast feeding, weight loss or even just gravity
are eradicated, so you can feel less self-conscious
in tighter clothing—and give your bra a break.
Solution: Bilateral Breast Reduction (BBR)
is a surgical procedure that reduces fat, tissue
and excess skin on large, heavy breasts.
Benefits: Eliminate pain and posture problems,
find freer movement and improve your
self image with a tighter, firmer bustline.
BEFORE & AFTER BILATERAL
BREAST AUGMENTION SURGERY
SAFE PROCEDURES FOR THE
STOMACH, BUTTOCKS, ARMS AND
LEGS CAN HELP LIFT, SCULPT, TONE
AND TIGHTEN WHERE YOU NEED IT
Solution: Abdominoplasty or “tummy
tuck” removes excess fat and tightens loose
skin and muscles in the abdomen area.
Benefits: Flatten the flabby midsection,
eliminate crepey skin, improve the
appearance of stretchmarks and wear
clothes that fit better.
BUMPS & BULGES
Solution: Liposuction is the surgical
removal of fat deposits from the body that
are resistant to weight loss and exercise.
Benefits: Streamline your body contour by
targeting the abdomen, arms, inner thighs,
knees, hips, back and chest—putting you
back in proportion.
Solution: Arm Lift surgery removes hanging
skin from the upper arms caused by
extreme weight loss or aging.
Benefits: Get more toned and tight arms—
and welcome the return of the sleeveless top!
Solution: Fat Grafting transfers fat from
one part of the body to another to volumize,
shape and sculpt where necessary.
Benefits: Create a more voluptuous behind,
soften boney hands or smooth out unwanted
Solution: Injectables like Botox®,
Restylane®, Sculptra® and Radiesse® are
advanced, non-invasive treatments that can
be used individually or in combination.
Benefits: Get help with pesky wrinkles,
creases and folds, and create more volume
in your cheeks, temples, chin and lips.
Solution: Otoplasty is the surgical correction
of large or protruding ears, including droopy
ears caused by wearing heavy earrings.
Benefits: Reduce or reshape excess cartilage
to lend a more harmonious balance to your
face with ears that are less pronounced.
COMBINING MICRO FAT GRAFTING
WITH MODERN SURGICAL LIFT
TECHNIQUES, YOU CAN UNLOCK
YOUR REAL BEAUTY AND ACHIEVE
Solution: Rhytidectomy or facelift surgery,
along with neck lift surgery, can correct
decreased skin elasticity, create more facial
volume and fix that sagging look.
Benefits: With a plan that is unique to you,
you can reduce facial folds and excess skin,
and tighten and smooth skin on the face
Solution: Sub-Mental Liposuction or
chin augmentation is a minimally invasive
procedure involving the surgical removal of
fat from the jowls, chin and neck.
Benefits: Fix a weak chin, a double chin or
a pudgy face by smoothing the contour of
the jawline for a more youthful, thin and
Solution: Blepharoplasty or eyelid surgery
is the correction of excess skin and the
removal of fat pockets on the upper and
Benefits: You look less tired and less
gaunt, get rid of dark circles and bags, and
restore fuller volume to the eyes.
Solution: Facial Fat Grafting is the transfer
of fat from one part of the body to the
face to contour and plump deflated areas.
Benefits: Enhance or reshape certain
facial features, lift and fill sunken cheeks
and temples, or tighten a sagging jawline.
Solution: Browlifts are surgical procedures
of varying intricacy, depending on
your particular need. These can involve a
classic lift along the hairline or less invasive
Benefits: Remove excess skin on the
eyelids and forehead, pulling brows into a
more youthful alignment.
BEFORE & AFTER
Solution: Buttock and Thigh Lift surgery
can correct and enhance a flat, droopy or
Benefits: Tighten up thighs, contour
buttocks with a Brazilian Butt Lift and
enjoy a more shaplier shape.
LOVE YOUR LABIA
The genital area is so often such a
touchy subject, isn’t it? Labiaplasty is
labial reduction, wherein excess skin
is reduced to correct problems due to
childbirth and to alleviate discomfort
caused by drooping or protruding
labia. This is a safe and easy, relatively
Benefits: Through trimming and
reshaping, and possibly fat grafting to
add volume to the outer labia where
necessary, you achieve more symmetry,
experience improved sensation during
sex and maintain an aesthetically
Benefits: The underlying weak muscles
of the pelvic floor are strengthened and
stimulated, so you can laugh, sneeze and
cough with confidence.
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Solution: Emsella® is an easy, non-invasive
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through a specially designed chair.
Solution: Emsculpt® and Emsculpt
Neo® are non-surgical, non-invasive
treatments that use electromagnetic
energy and radio frequency to stimulate
deep, supramaximal muscle contractions
and fat reduction on the abdomen, buttocks,
back and legs.
Benefits: Say hello to six-pack abs and
a firm bottom. Another plus: Emsculpt®
can help reverse postpartum diastasis
recti (the separation of the abdominal
muscles). You burn fat and build muscle,
achieving a strong, lean and sculpted
Solution: CoolSculpting® is a safe,
lunch-hour treatment that uses a controlled
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For those struggling with
infertility, we could all use
a little piece of that
Mother’s Day love.
bby Erin Mccann
Infertility is really, really hard.
Explaining it to people is also
really, really hard, and there’s
one day of the year that makes
it even harder: Mother’s Day.
Don’t get me wrong. I have a wonderful
mother and I know many amazing
moms who deserve all the adoration,
praise and gratitude we have to spare.
But Mother’s Day is a special kind
of torture for those of us struggling
with infertility, a reminder of the club
we yearn to be a part of, the thing we
long to experience but can’t.
Every year when Mother’s Day
comes around—at least for as long as
I’ve been trying to conceive—I have
to turn off my social media and bury
myself in soothing rituals like watching
old Gossip Girl episodes, drinking
lots of Champagne, eating an entire
pizza by myself and snuggling my
dog extra tight.
I don’t want to celebrate and I
certainly don’t want to be reminded of
the arduous, painful process of going
through fertility treatments: overwhelmed
and understaffed fertility
clinics, endless blood tests, needles,
painful cervical examinations, ovulation
sticks, timed intercourse (and no,
it’s not fun), medication that makes
you break out, gain weight and want
to sleep all day. And the expense:
thousands of dollars for every cycle
you put yourself through (my urgently
ticking clock meant that I could not
wait the two years it would take to
receive a government-funded cycle).
Then there’s the crying—every time a
pregnancy test comes back negative,
every month when your menstrual
cycle rears its unwanted head yet
again, every time you get pregnant
only to miscarry weeks later.
The process is traumatic, and not just
for women like me whose treatments
have been unsuccessful. There are
mothers whose treatments have yielded
beautiful children, yet even they
can be triggered on Mother’s Day.
“Like a lot of women, when I was
longing to have children, Mother’s
Day would make me feel a little bitter
and sad,” says Rana Florida, CEO
of Creative Class and mother of
two girls, about her experience with
Mother’s Day and infertility. “And on
top of that, people would constantly
ask me: “Why haven’t you had kids
yet?” It was frustrating,” she says.
“Now, every Mother’s Day, I’m in
disbelief that I have two amazing
little daughters. I’m so grateful, but
the journey I went through is not
for the faint of heart. There are some
tough memories there that still come
up,” Rana says. “I did treatments in
five different states from New York to
Washington, D.C. to Toronto to
California. I suffered an ectopic
pregnancy, and then, after several
more tries, we got pregnant again and
experienced vanishing twin syndrome.
So there was certainly pain and loss
that happened along the way.”
Anyone who’s been through it can
relate. You need an iron will and endless
stamina to withstand the many
hurdles that come with infertility
treatments, including all the questions
relatives throw at you and quiet
innuendoes at dinner parties that
result in you silently sobbing in someone’s
When we decided we would do a
special Mother’s Day Issue here at
ModernBeauty magazine, I absolutely
wanted to acknowledge all the wouldbe
mothers out there to let them
know: you are not alone. So many
of us keep our fertility struggles to
ourselves, but the reality is that there
are more of us than we think.
“If you take the population as a whole,
about one in six women struggle with
infertility, and that statistic increases
with age.” says Reproductive Endocrinologist
and Infertility Specialist
Dr. Sony Sierra. “Nowadays, for many
reasons, people are delaying getting
pregnant until their mid- to late- 30s,
and we’re seeing infertility numbers
are more like one in four within that
age group. So yes, there are a lot of
women out there for whom Mother’s
Day can be triggering.”
DR. SONY SIERRA, TRIO FERTILITYY
RANA FLORIDA WITH HER
DAUGHTERS VALENTINA & MILA
For those of you who weren’t fully
aware of just how painful and awkward
Mother’s Day can be for so
many of us, here are a couple of ways
you can help make the day easier:
1. Unless you are certain that the
person you are asking about “having
kids” is very comfortable talking
about the subject, don’t ask.
2. Be sensitive to the fact that Mother’s
Day can be painful for some, and
take some time to acknowledge those
who may be struggling. A personal
note, flowers or a phone call just to
say “Hey” can go a long way.
3. Understand that your childless
friends may not want to be confronted
with all things “kids” and “family”
on this holiday. If they don’t like your
Mother’s Day Instagram post, don’t
get sore. If they don’t want to meet
up with you and the kids, suggest an
adults-only activity for another time.
To all the mothers out there still
trying, hoping, wishing: don’t lose
hope—treatments for infertility are
“Technology has really come a long
way even in the last ten years,” Dr.
Sierra tells us. “Things like new
high-powered microscopes, embryoscopes
and genetic testing allow us
to gather more information about
egg quality, place sperm more
accurately and screen embryos, all of
which increase success rates significantly.”
For those who are hurting: there’s
nothing wrong with prioritizing
yourself on Mother’s Day. Take a
“digital break,” make grown-up plans
with your partner, steer clear of “family”
zones like parks and nurture your
tender heart in whatever way you
need to. There are also many support
groups out there, and most fertility
clinics offer counselling services for
those who need them.
I try to remind myself on this day of
all the things I have to be thankful
for: a wonderful husband, a full and
rewarding life, and great freedom to
pursue my career and my art. Like
most of the people I know who
have been through infertility treatments,
I am incredibly strong. I don’t
need pity and I don’t want to cancel
Mother’s Day. What I could use is
just a little piece of that Mother’s
Day love, because here’s the thing of
it: in a way, I’m a mom, too.
Some might not agree or understand,
but I believe that the moment you
get that hope in your heart, the day
you start taking fertility drugs and
think, This might work, or the minute
after an intrauterine insemination or
in vitro implantation and you imagine
your child coming into the world,
you are a mom.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of us. //
INFERTILITY THIS MOTHER’S
DAY? YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
If you’d like to share your story
or thoughts on this article,
contact me at:
LEARN MORE ABOUT
DR. SIERRA AND TRIO
IN HONOUR OF MOTHER’S DAY, WE SHINE A LIGHT
ON A FEW SPECIAL MOMS WE KNOW WHO DESERVE
ATTENTION AND PRAISE FOR THEIR EXCEPTIONAL
COURAGE, DETERMINATION, AND STRENGTH.
Hair & Makeup by
Alison wears one of Jordana’s favourite headscarves
and The Rainbow Bracelet from JordanasRainbows.com.
Honouring her daughter and raising awareness of pediatric cancer with Jordana’s Rainbows.
“WE ARE WARRIORS.”
Tell us a bit about your motherhood
My motherhood journey began when
I had Lucas in 2004, Jordana in 2005
and Laurence in 2008. Having three
kids under four years of age seemed
like a lot at the time but when I look
back, I wish I had more because I
love being a mom!
My eldest, Lucas, has always been
mature for his age. He tends to be
quiet and modest around us, but he
can also be a real joker. When we
least expect it, he’ll jump in with a
clever one-liner or completely offside
joke and leave us all in stitches.
Jordana is a rainbow in every sense of
the word. I can’t remember her not
smiling or laughing. She received her
angel wings in 2016, but her divine
presence is still with us.
When we had Laurence we added
the perfect spice to our family. He’s
full of energy, super engaging, always
curious and wide-eyed, and looks up
to his big brother in every way.
What’s your favourite part about
being a mom?
I truly love it all. I love making
memories with my husband and
kids. Travelling with them, or just
enjoying the simple things like long
walks, family meals, or when they
were little and we curled up in bed
to read together.
What are some of the challenges of
being a mom?
Does a mother ever stop worrying?
On some days, I find myself worrying
about the littlest things. Yet, because
of the trauma we experienced, we’ve
learned how to let go of some of the
things that we can’t control. You become
able to recognize an inexplicable
divinity, which helps you to let go of
some of the pain and worry.
How have you been managing kids
and family during the pandemic?
While this pandemic has certainly
been frustrating, scary, challenging
and lonely, my family has lived
through isolation and fear before. We
are a little more acclimatized than
the average family to the unexpected
and unknown, so we’ve been managing
pretty well this past year.
Tell us about Jordana’s Rainbows.
Jordana was diagnosed with DIPG
(Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma)
at SickKids in September 2015.
DIPG is an inoperable brain
tumour that affects children in the
early years of their life and has a
survival rate of six to nine months.
Jordana survived DIPG for only
We continue to honour Jordana
by sharing her light and love of
rainbows through our charity, The
Jordana’s Rainbows Foundation.
Our mission is to raise awareness
for DIPG, and raise funds toward
childhood cancer research.
What kind of self-care do you practice,
so that you can survive motherhood
Apart from regular excercise, reading,
and quality time with friends, my
work with Jordana’s Rainbows is also
an important part of my self care. It
has allowed me to be vulnerable with
my pain. Expressing and sharing my
story has allowed me to heal, while
helping others at the same time.
There are many moms out there who
struggle with loss on Mother’s Day.
What would you like to say to them?
You’re not alone. Whatever your
circumstance is, there are so many
people feeling what you are feeling.
This is not something you need to bear
on your own. We are warriors. We were
destined to weather these storms. The
key is to channel your pain into good,
and service for others—this is where
the magic happens. //
photo by Mark Binks
Managing kids, a full time career and lockdowns with poise and purpose.
“DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF.”
Tell us a bit about your family.
I have two children: Charlotte, who
just turned 14, and Lukas who is 10.
My kids are three-and-a-half years
apart and opposite sexes, so they don’t
have a lot in common, but they can
always make each other laugh. They
both love the outoors, music, their
friends and their extended family.
Did you always know you wanted to
be a mom?
I have always loved kids and knew
I wanted to be a mom. When I
graduated high school I was voted
most likely to start an orphanage!
How have you been managing kids
and family during the pandemic?
I’m divorced and a full-time working
mom, so it was really hard
at the beginning. And with each
lockdown or pivot, emotions can be
high. I had to learn to ask for help,
something I am terrible at doing—
whether that was by booking a tutor
for my daughter, calling on teachers
for support and advice, or asking for
more flexible working hours.
If you could go back in time and give
your new mom-self some advice, what
would it be?
I felt pressure to go back to work
soon after both of my kids were born
and I regret it. I would tell my new
mom-self: do not sacrifice this time.
It goes fast and your career is long.
Also “don’t sweat the small stuff ”
should be a mommy mantra!
You’re a single mom, and you’re a
powerhouse in business. Can you tell
me about what you do and how you
balance/manage work and family?
I am currently Chief Marketing
Officer for a global advertising
technology company. I have to say
I love what I do. Balance is hard
though—especially in a pandemic
where there are no boundaries
between work and home. A few
things that have helped me keep
it together include: a good chat
with a friend when overwhelmed,
working out, and GoodFood boxes
to take the guesswork out of meal
planning and prep.
What kind of self-care do you practice,
so you can survive motherhood?
For any woman, a lot of who we are
is wrapped up in what we look like
or how we are perceived. A large part
of self-care for me has involved the
treatment of facial paralysis caused
by Bell’s Palsy, a virus which is part
of the chickenpox strain, which I
developed in my 20s.
I always had a huge smile that could
light up a room and with the right side
of my face mostly immobile, I felt lost
and self-conscious for quite a while. I
found a doctor in New York who was
able to use Botox to calm the nerves/
activity on the left side of my face so
that I would have more symmetry.
When I moved back to Toronto, Dr.
Born was the only person I trusted to
work with me on symmetry and the
synkinesis I had developed from my
Bell’s Palsy. He’s been treating me for
the last 15 years, and this past year I
asked him to perform eyelid surgery,
as my right eye was starting to droop
and I already had very hooded lids.
He is literally a magician. My eyes
look brighter and fresher, and the
change gave me the little boost I
needed to look and feel my best.
There are many mom’ out there facing
another Mother’s Day in lockdown,
who have struggled this past year.
What would you like to say to them?
You are not alone. I want more moms
to share their stories and struggles. It
isn’t easy for anyone in these times.
Whether single, divorced, married,
widowed. There is nothing more
powerful than the strength we bring
each other when we come together. //
A little bit Mom AND Dad, he’s raising surrogate twin girls all on his own.
“I’VE CHANGED A LOT OF DIAPERS.”
Tell us a bit about your mother/ fatherhood
There was a pivotal moment in my
life—I was 37, living in the Middle
East, earning a good living, travelling
all over the world and living quite a
glamorous life. One morning, I was
sitting by myself in a seven-star hotel
in Dubai watching the sunrise and I
thought to myself: “I need more than
this.” There was something missing
from my life, and I knew then that I
wanted to start a family.
I’m a gay man, which made the process
of adoption difficult. There are
many countries that flat-out prohibit
LGBTQ people from adopting, and
then there was the fact that I was in
a relationship but unmarried, which
was another strike against me. I
eventually found a surrogacy agency
in Kenya that permitted same-sex
couples, and that’s when my parenthood
It was a long, tough road. Along the
way, I broke up with my partner, went
through four unsuccessful embryo
transfers, and had to deal with many
legal hurdles. There were times when
I thought that maybe God didn’t want
me to be a parent. When my surrogate
finally did get pregnant (with
twins—surprise!), the agency threw
another curveball at me, telling me
that unless I had a “female” companion
with me, I would not be permitted
to claim my children. I had to bring a
“pretend wife” with me to Mombassa
so that I could get my girls.
It was all worth it though, when
my surrogate brought Stella and
Mia into my world on November
30, 2018. I thought I knew what
love was, but I didn’t know the true
meaning of the word until I held my
babies in my arms.
What are they like?
Mia is exactly like me—moody. She
needs to get her way. She’s a force to
be reckoned with, which I love,
because as a woman in this world, she
needs to be—but as a dad, it’s killing
me! Stella is like my little Buddha.
She always looks after me, making
sure Daddy’s OK.
What’s your favourite part about
being a parent?
Having two people on this earth
who love me unconditionally and
rely on me to take care of them
gives me a great sense of purpose,
which was missing from my life
before. I’m very grateful for that.
Also, every night when I put them
to sleep and I hear them say,
“I love you.” That’s certainly a highlight.
As a single parent, you kind of have to
be both Mom and Dad. What are some
of the ways you fulfill those roles for
I really just try to give my girls all the
love and affection that I can. There
has definitely been a learning curve.
I read all the mommy books, all the
daddy books. I’ve had to learn to be
patient, to remain calm and be more
nurturing. I try to give them the kind
of love my own mom gave me—she’s
an incredible woman and has taught
me so much.
I think a lot of the traditional notions
of what “moms” do versus what “dads”
do aren’t realistic nowadays. I know
some dads who have never changed
a diaper because they think it’s “not
their job.” That just doesn’t make sense
to me. I never had a choice. From
day one, I had to be both. And I have
twins, so I’ve changed a lot of diapers!
There are many people out there who
have faced (or are facing) the same
barriers that you did when it comes to
starting a family. What would you like
to say to them?
Don’t give up. Keep going, and
know that everything happens for a
reason. Prejudice, judgement, legal
blockades—I would be lying if I said I
didn’t think about giving up sometimes.
But I never did, and I would do
it all again for them in a heartbeat. //
WITH VACCINATIONS ON THE RISE,
THE END OF LOCKDOWN LIFE IS ON THE HORIZON.
BUT THERE IS STILL SOME WORK TO DO
BEFORE WE GET THERE.
GETTING BACK TO
“When will things get back to normal?”
With every month that passes under
the lockdown cloud of COVID-19,
I hear the same question.
I wish I had the answer—but it’s
more complicated than just getting
a vaccine and picking a date on the
calendar. Our outines—the way we
eat, sleep, dress, move, work, travel,
communicate—have all been altered
in response to the pandemic.
Our internal compasses have definitely
become a little “off.” I’m here
to tell you: It’s OK.
Unless you’re some kind of superhuman,
feeling abnormal is the only
genuine response to the collective
trauma we have experienced over
the past year. Anxiety, fear, stress,
loss and pain have dominated our
bodies and minds, leaving us shellshocked.
The World Health Organization
has even declared that the
pandemic has caused mass trauma on
a scale larger than the Second World
War, and anticipates the need for
increased mental health resources for
years to come.
Processing our trauma will be a
critical first step on the journey back
to any true sense of normality. Here
are a few ways we can begin to heal,
rebuild and replenish ourselves in
preparation for the light at the end of
the COVID-19 tunnel. >>
Photography: Bille Chiasson
I often see social media posts with
notions like “Positive Vibes Only!” or
“Be the Sunshine on a Cloudy Day”
and I have to admit they concern
me. Many people have been conditioned
to “fight off ” negative feelings
by supplanting them with forced
feelings of positivity and this is not
healthy. Suppressing your emotions,
rather than processing them, can
actually make you sick, mentally and
physically. Research has shown that
emotional repression can lead to
decreased immune function, chronic
stress, hypertension, cardiovascular
disease, digestive issues, the list goes
on. To deal with negative emotions
more constructively, acknowledge
that every now and again, you will
have a bad day, and allow yourself to
experience those feelings.
Anthony Tran/ Unsplash
It’s easy to get stuck in a dark place
if you don’t give yourself a proper
“out” from your negative emotions.
Give yourself a strict window of
time to fully experience the feelings—an
hour is more than enough.
During that hour, try giving your
emotions an outlet—write in a
journal, or try drawing or painting,
which has been shown to reduce
cortisol (the stress hormone) in
recent studies. Or if you’re musically
inclined, play an instrument or sing a
sad song. There’s a reason some of the
best music ever written is melancholy—it’s
cathartic! Then, when the
hour is up, close the book and reward
yourself with a soothing gesture like a
good cup of tea, a hot bath or a walk
around the block.
While many have adopted productive
coping strategies over the course
of the pandemic, such as meditating,
yoga and deep breathing, it’s important
to make the distinction between
therapeutic activities and actual
therapy. A professional therapist or
psychiatrist can give you actionable
methods and tools to safely process
your feelings, heal and move forward
in your life. If you’re struggling with
feelings of despair, hopelessness,
depression or grief for longer than six
months, it’s probably a good idea to
seek out a registered psychotherapist
or psychiatrist. We have a great network
of providers if you are looking
for someone. Just ask!
Tabitha Turner/ Unsplash
As we rebound from the emotional,
social and financial impacts of the pandemic,
we must also help one another—
particularly those who have suffered the
effects of COVID-19 more intensely:
the essential workers, those who face
socio-economic barriers, children and
the elderly. The great thing about helping
others is that it benefits both the
giver and the receiver. Countless studies
have documented the mental and
physical health benefits of giving back,
showing that charity work and philanthropy
release dopamine (our feel-good
hormones), lower blood pressure, reduce
stress and help alleviate depression.
The faster we acknowledge and address
the inequities that have been magnified by
the pandemic, the happier we will all be.
There are many simple ways you can
help those in need of support:
• Deliver healthy meals to frontline
• Petition your local government to provide
paid sick leave for frontline workers
• If you have the means, donate to one
of the many organizations who provide
services, programs and resources to
children in need
• Offer your services or donate to a crisis
A little more patience, understanding
and giving—to ourselves and each other—
will help all of us reach the other side
of the pandemic stronger and more
brilliant than we were before. //
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JUDITH BORN TELLS US WHAT IT WAS
LIKE RAISING OUR FAVOURITE DOCTOR.
What was Dr. Born like as a young boy?
Trevor was a very adventurous little boy. He was
always his own person, independent and fearless,
which I think served him well as an athlete. He
picked up sports very quickly, and once he set his
mind to conquering a sport, that was it!
When did he start showing an interest in medicine?
He was already talking about being a surgeon when
he was 10 years old. The fact that his father (Dr. Gunther
Born) was a surgeon had a lot to do with that, as
he was a huge influence on Trevor. Many of our friends
were also physicians, so he had access to that world long
before he started medical school. They would let him
watch them in the operating room when he was in high
school, which gave him a great head start in the medical
What about him makes you the most proud?
There are so many things that make me proud. He’s a
world-class sailor and has won several titles, including a
bronze medal at the PanAm games. He’s such an accomplished
surgeon, with two successful practices. But above all,
he’s a good person. He’s a very caring individual, and that’s
part of what makes him such a great doctor.
What do you think is the most important advice or life lesson
you taught him?
Well first of all, raising him (and our daughter Leslie) was
very much a team effort. Gunther and I have always been
extremely close, so when it comes to our family, we work
together. I would say we tried to teach Trevor the importance
of setting goals and sticking to them. And really, he never
seemed to have a problem with that. He’s always had big
goals, big dreams, and has created a full and wonderful life
Being his mother, I’m perhaps a little biased, but I think he’s
just an absolutely wonderful human being—and a great son. //
Photo by Jaclyn Locke
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